[Talking about her age] I thought that it would be a thing when they first heard about me, and then it would stop being a thing, but no, I’ve been in some situations where people have treated me like a fascinating toy. You know, it’s just like an interesting kind of fun thing to have a play with. It’s very weird for me. I feel like a tiny baby. But it’s all relative: when you’re my age in particular, every year feels like a massive change. The difference between 15 and 17 is colossal for everyone.
"Don’t you know that a man being rich is like a girl being pretty? You wouldn’t marry a girl just because she’s pretty, but my goodness, doesn’t it help?"
Marilyn Monroe and Jane Russell in Gentlemen Prefer Blondes (1953)
it’s so crazy to me that there are tall girls out there that don’t want to wear heels because they’d be taller than boys and apparently that’s not the way to be but you should wear the highest shoes ever and intimidate every small man because you rule the world.
I have no such qualms. Of course people then inevitably complain about how tall I am. And I’m just like…
Excellent point. The societal construct of gender roles reinforcing concepts of strength and independence makes men less likely to seek help for suicidal thoughts and depression. Highest rates are seen among the young, single, unemployed, uneducated, and there’s another peak in the 40s if my memory is correct.
I will amend that this 3:1 statistic is for committed suicides, i.e. completed suicides. Women have higher rates of attempted suicide. Part of this is the preference in methods: men go for more violent means of hanging, firearms, whereas women generally opt for overdose, that can be caught and treated before it is fatal. The other, more important part, in my humble opinion, is that women will eventually seek help (most anyway) and do not get to completion, if you will. It is this behavioral trait, showing vulnerability and getting help when you need it, that we as a society should encourage for both sexes by breaking gender normative ideals.
Listening to Alone in Kyoto now. I forgot how much I loved Air. Aaaaah…. I’m so calm now. I miss Kyoto.
All I need is a little sign
To get behind this sun
And cast this weight of mine
In French, you don’t really say “I miss you.” You say “tu me manques,” which is closer to “you are missing from me.” I love that. “You are missing from me.” You are a part of me, you are essential to my being. You are like a limb, or an organ, or blood. I cannot function without you.